What do you wish guys would do?

So one of the nights of the cruise, i posted prior to this one, We are separating the men and women, There will be several things for the ladies like chair dance class and a few other things we have not figured out yet, but for the guys we will be having some sort of group meet and we are trying to decided what it should be focusing on. Here are some examples we came up with, but what would you want your man to work on that would make you more willing to make love to him?
I have to say  we ALL want our men to pitch in more at home and give us the time to feel like sexy women...but would you like him to learn
1) relaxing massage, that would connect the two of you BEFORE hanky panky starts
2) Dress up, just like he wants us in Lingerie and set up a romantic seduction scene or
3) learn to talk to me in a romantic way that makes me want to be more sexual

(that doesn't imply he needs to wear lingerie.....just "PUT SOME EFFORT INTO IT!")

just ideas
if you have an other please write it in we are looking for anything you are wanting or women want in general

sexy photoshoot

surprise your lover with a sexy photo album! now with printers in almost every household we no longer have to be embarrassed taking intimate photos in or have them possibly confiscated. Use lingerie you already have or use it as an excuse to buy a new set. You can find a photographer who does these but they are usually a little pricey but you can do them yourself and save some money but it is nice to go into a studio and have someone tell you what looks good and has experience with shoots like this but make sure it is someone you are comfortable with or else it will show in the pictures.
Take one of your mans button up shirts so you can do a morning after shot.
Take some costumes along.
Have fun with it and dont be embarrassed he will love them and he will be the one looking at them!

A month of sex

Try it! Every day try something new! Greet him at the door in lingerie and christen your living room couch, take him in the shower, set up a sexy picnic in your room with whipped cream, strawberries, and chocolate body paint, take the car somewhere secluded, meet him at the office. Make every day an adventure!
I know what you are thinking "SADDLE SORE!" take a look at the second item on this blog
http://controversialstudiossa.blogspot.com/2010/03/tub-time.html
for a lubricant that will help with that! remember GET RID OF THE EXCUSES!  Doing this will bring you closer than ever to each other more than ever. It should bring out conversation for you and give you both a stronger physical connection.

Romantic Adventure!

continue to date your spouse no matter how long you have been together or how well you know each other. You need that one one one time to get and stay connected! You need your regular time together to bring back memories and turn back the clock on your relationship.
Get out of the rut if you are doing the same thing every week (dinner and a movie). Couples need to go on adventures together. Go for a weekend to Vegas, gamble, go virtual skydiving, an oxygen bar. Go on a 50's date and dress up and go bowling and to the roller skating rink (and to the drive in if there is one by you.) Continue to pursue each other in ways you never have before. Just because you now have the person doesn't mean you just give up and become a stereotypical married couple. 
Go to the beach and walk along the pier (or if you don't have one near by go to the park or a pond) there is something about the moonlight on the water that makes it so romantic. GUYS- if a girl is feeling pursued and adored and is getting special treatment you are more likely to get LUCKY! It is a win/win!
If you are parents you need this time more than ever! It may seem less likely and you may be thinking about your children the whole time but it is still good for you both.

your homework assignment! plan a romantic date with your significant other that is out of the ordinary for you!
Put time and effort into each other! that is how a marriage lasts! 

52 Weeks of Romance

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52weeksofromance.aspx

Do you sometimes find yourself in a funk when trying to figure out what to do for your date nights? Well this is a perfect way to get out of that funk.Romantic thrills, unexpected surprises, passionate expressions of love, and playful games of seduction are all temptations that you can expect to find inside! Simply pull a card from the silk pouch and see what romantic surprise awaits you and your spouse. The year's supply of "scratch and win" cards include romantic IOU's, suggestions, coupons, interludes, and more.

Bridal Shower Gift Ideas

I have been at a LOSS for bridal shower gifts so many times but here are some great ideas that i am actually going to use for a couple bridal showers i am going to be going to! (these are classy)

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52tipsforthebride.aspx

 52 Tips For The Bride-to-Be

These tidbits and strategies will help you create the wedding of your dreams without losing too much sleep or your sense of humor. Comes as a deck of 52 cards.

                                            http://xsandoslingerie.com/adeluxebedofroses.aspx

The Deluxe Bed Of Roses

This it a subtle gift that wont embarrass her but you know will get used! this will be perfect for them to pack for the wedding night (or you can buy it as the bridesmaids and decorate the wedding suit) <- i am a wedding coordinator and i have had a lot of girls do that. The couple (especially the bride) will really enjoy this!
Includes over two hundred scented silk rose petals, rose scented bubble bath(2OZ.), edible gourmet chocolate massage oil (2OZ.), a back massager, four romantic tea lights, and a very special invitation card all packaged in a black satin carrying case!

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/abedofroseswhite.aspx

 A Bed of White Roses

This is absolutely perfect for the wedding night. The white roses will make a beautiful edition to the wedding suite. A classy and elegant inexpensive gift for the bride that she will love.

 http://xsandoslingerie.com/dreamsiclesuntouchedcandle.aspx

 Suntouched Candle

 This candle is very similare to the kissable candle i posted up (which would be a good choice as well) but this is a massage candle that burns at a couple degrees above body temperature which means you can pour it directly on to the skin. It becomes a VERY moisturizing massage oil that is 100%natural and well as 100% vegan. She will enjoy this simple gift that will bring her many massages!
This is my favorite scent it smells like a 50/50 bar, but they have many other scents you can browse the site for.
*Fragrant Natural Soy-Oil Candle burns longer & cleaner
*Melts into a warming, silky massage oil
*Penetrates and moisturizes skin
*8 Natural Oils including Hemp Seed,Vitamin E, Jojoba, Avocado, and Almond leave skin soft and smooth.
*Use right out of the shower or bath
*100% Vegan, Non-Toxic

http://xsandoslingerie.com/fantasysuite.aspx

Fantasy Suite

This one is a little pricier but it has a LOT going on. The kit includes very berry warming massage oil, cocoalicious chocolate body paint with paintbrush, two glass champagne flutes, a full size champagne bucket, two black satin robes, one thousand scented silk rose petals in a sexy organza pouch, a set of three pillar candles, fifty tea lights, the signature top selling Amazing Hot Heart Massager™ and a CD with romantic music. That sounds like a lot of good nights to me! The couple well thank you forever for this gift. Again this is a classy gift that is not embarrassing to open. So if she is shy or has parents (or you are the parent) this is an appropriate gift.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/romanticmassagekit.aspx

Romantic Massage Kit

The Romantic Massage Kit includes a massager, tropical scented oil, candles, and a guide to improve your massage skills. This is a classy gift with a non graphic cover that also will be classy to open. She will enjoy this as will her husband. 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/sweetcelebrationbox.aspx

Sweet Celebrations Box

 This kit is beautiful and comes with a lot of goodies. The kit includes   Set contains full sizes of: Vanilla Crème Oil of Love, French Vanilla Crème Body Soufflé, Pleasure Garden Massage Oil, Sweet Honeysuckle Boudoir Puff in a pure white satin bag and lightly fragranced rose petals encased in an organza bag. This may be one of the gifts people say "Oooo" to because the name is Kamasutra that makes it but it is still a classy gift and since it has white rose petals it would be perfect for the wedding night.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/silkysheetsplumeriawphermones.aspx

Silky Sheets

This is a pheromone spray for your sheets or clean clothes. It helps you get in the mood and stay in the mood and smells amazing and clean. This is a great gift that is safe to get a bride-to-be. 

There are a few of my bridal shower suggestions. I hope they help you in your quest for an amazing shower gift. I will post bachelorette party gifts in a later blog!

52 dates

This is an amazing little deck of cards that give you great ideas for dates while on a budget. They are all extremely fun and some are very original. My husband and i purchased this in the beginning of our marriage and we have used quite a few of these! We have been able to not think about have to spend a ton of money to continue dating each other. This nice little deck takes out our biggest excuse of why we do not go out on dates with our spouses. It is so important to spend that one on one quality time together.
if you would like to purchase these here is the link
http://xsandoslingerie.com/52greatcheapdates.aspx

 This deck has some extreme dates (we have not done as many of these as the others) but some are super fun and some do not cost any money to do. I know you will enjoy some of these. Every couple of months we pick one of these cards at random and complete the task

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52romanticadventures.aspx