Eden

If you dont like you masturbation sleeve to look graphic this is an AMAZING one. I have only heard great things from this one. it has the two finger holes for grip. (my personal suggestion is for her to use it on him) The finger holes also are the right size for a bullet (i suggest the Rocks off 80mm bullet) and add an extra sensation for him. It is also highly ribbed and feels very real. it is easily turned inside out to clean. Also when he is about to orgasm if you stretch it you suck the orgasm right out of him.

Pregnancy!

Can you still have sex during pregnancy, if so for how long?
As long as you are not a high risk pregnancy or your doctor advises you to hold off on sex it is actually an amazing thing for pregnancy. Orgasms are actually GOOD for the baby, the same hormone that gets sent to your brain when you have one gets sent to the baby making baby happy and less stressed.
You may need to change positions from what you were doing once the belly gets in the way, try different things and have fun with it. It is ok to laugh about it if something doesn't work, don't get frustrated sex is supposed to be fun!

food really can be an aphrodisiacs

it is all in how you eat them and the shapes of the food which makes your mind subconsciously go "there."Also spicy foods increase blood flow which makes your sex drive increase.

Asparagus- the shape and manner in which you eat it, or feed it to your partner brings sex to mind.

Avocado- The Aztecs called an avocado tree "testicle tree" because of how the fruit hang in pairs. 

Banana- by its obvious shape and texture, 

i will post more a couple times a week

Something has been brought to my attention.

I was written by a reader about a subject that i believe a lot of women can relate to! MEN READ THIS!
When a woman says she is almost there, that means what you are doing is working. So when she says this keep doing the same thing. Do not change it up! When you do this she loses the momentum she had built up to the BIG O and this is very frustrating! dont go faster, dont go harder, just keep going!  UNLESS SHE ASKS YOU TO CHANGE IT OR DO IT A DIFFERENT WAY!
thank you
i do respond to you when you have a specific concern or want me to research something for you! also if you want to find the perfect item for your pleasure!

Homework today!

Make time for each other tonight! You know you have 15 minutes to make love and reconnect! (a lot of time that is all it takes) Surprise him and knock him off his feet. Wear some lingerie under your clothes or light that candle! Lets make our husbands happy!

Use the tools of the trade!

I just recently saw this "tool" I have not purchased it but i think it look cool. It is called the Sqweel. It has rotating tongues that give you the feeling of oral sex. It is very easy to clean and to use. It takes 3 triple A batteries. I like the design because it isn't your normal vibration, I am interested in hearing reviews from people who have purchased this.

Foreplay

this is where a lot of communication needs to come in! If you do not talk about it you may never be pleased and it is not your partners fault that they can't read your mind. But you also should be asking what they want! In order to not hurt your husbands ego you should state what you want like this. "I LOVE it when you...." That empowers them knowing they did something that made you happy and it makes them want to do that for you! But foreplay is KEY for girls! It is much easier for a woman to have an orgasm during sex, after she had a clitoral orgasm during foreplay. Women are like a crock pot and men are like a microwave, it takes a while to get most of us to the finish line.

Learn you partners "love language"

People speak the 5 different languages when it comes to showing and receiving love, once you understand and accept your partners language things will become much easier for you in all other aspects of your relationship.
Try to figure out which one you are and which one your partner is.

1. Words of Affirmation
          -If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. If this is your language it is hard for you to let go of things that are said to you good or bad. Hearing the sweet nothings from your love mean the world to you. (writing a poem, singing a song for them, love letters, i love you notes, these things will give you big PLUSES for the people who speak this language)

2.Quality Time
          -Nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. (this is my love language) A date that gives the both of you a lot of time to just be together is a big plus (going for a walk, going out to dinner, a road trip, a picnic)

3. Receiving Gifts 
          -Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. (a photo album, a camera with a note saying it is to take pictures of the two of you, any gift with purpose behind it showing that you listen and care.)

4. Acts of Service
          -Do you (or does your significant other) love it when you do chores around the house? Do you find yourself getting more from them and find them happier when you ask what you can do to help out, or do it unasked?  Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.(clean the house or car while they are away leaving notes saying you did it for them, Pick up the dry cleaning, call on your way home from work asking if there is anything that you could do for them on the way home)

5. Physical Touch
          -This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.(when you see this person give them a hug, go for a walk holding hands, when you kiss them touch their cheek softly, console them by touching their arm or letting them cry on your shoulder, when they are talking to you and you want to show you are listening put your hand on their knee)

I hope this helps you learn a little more about your partner, discus each others love languages together and tell talk about how you are going to make one another feel more loved.

What do you wish guys would do?

So one of the nights of the cruise, i posted prior to this one, We are separating the men and women, There will be several things for the ladies like chair dance class and a few other things we have not figured out yet, but for the guys we will be having some sort of group meet and we are trying to decided what it should be focusing on. Here are some examples we came up with, but what would you want your man to work on that would make you more willing to make love to him?
I have to say  we ALL want our men to pitch in more at home and give us the time to feel like sexy women...but would you like him to learn
1) relaxing massage, that would connect the two of you BEFORE hanky panky starts
2) Dress up, just like he wants us in Lingerie and set up a romantic seduction scene or
3) learn to talk to me in a romantic way that makes me want to be more sexual

(that doesn't imply he needs to wear lingerie.....just "PUT SOME EFFORT INTO IT!")

just ideas
if you have an other please write it in we are looking for anything you are wanting or women want in general

Xs and Os is taking a cruise

The X's & O's Lingerie Cruise (soon to be cleverly named) is well underway in the planning stages!! Met w/ Debi King to go over possibilities & brainstorm! Workshop/s offered for the couples, guest speaker/s, SPECIAL GOODIES delivered to enjoy at "bed-time", "Homework assignments" for building/rekindling the flame in the bedroom, etc! Who can say NO to Time Away from the MADNESS of LIFE?

The date will be picked soon it is between Dec 6 (a four day cruise) or Feb 20th (5 day cruise) 

If you are interested or want to hear more i will be posting updates on it while i get them! 

The cruise will include a chair dance lesson by yours truly as well to practice that night with your lover! :)

Guys let the girls finish all of the chores first

A lot of times girls have to much going on in their heads that they can not get into sex! i promise it will be a hundred percent better for you if you let her do the things that she says she needs to get done first. You want her to have a clear mind to focus on only you, make sure the doors are locked stove is off, curling iron is unplugged, the dishes are done, the toys are put away and there is nothing she needs to worry about.

sexy photoshoot

surprise your lover with a sexy photo album! now with printers in almost every household we no longer have to be embarrassed taking intimate photos in or have them possibly confiscated. Use lingerie you already have or use it as an excuse to buy a new set. You can find a photographer who does these but they are usually a little pricey but you can do them yourself and save some money but it is nice to go into a studio and have someone tell you what looks good and has experience with shoots like this but make sure it is someone you are comfortable with or else it will show in the pictures.
Take one of your mans button up shirts so you can do a morning after shot.
Take some costumes along.
Have fun with it and dont be embarrassed he will love them and he will be the one looking at them!

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Music sets the mood.

Make a mood CD. It has been proven that music impacts our mood a LOT. For women, we a lot of times set ourselves up for failure in bed and if we start doing things purposefully to put ourselves in the mood then you will have it on your mind and that is half the battle. I dont know why but i LOVE nine inch nails, the lead singers voice automatically puts me in the mood so i listen to my itunes to that the days that i want to be in the mood for my hubby! What is your mood music?

Back Door

It is a subject that not many people discuss. Only 25% of people who have been asked out of over 3400 admitted to performing in ANY form of anal play, this included heterosexual and homosexual relations. only 6% to 8% of couples living together admitted to having anal sex at least once a month.  Believe it or not but some forms of anal stimulation can be beneficial for your health! Males using special adult toys that massage the prostate can promote prostate help and significantly lower your risk for prostate cancer. There are several versions of toys that help with this, the one the most people i have talked to have been pleased with is call the Aneros. The couples don't only say it is beneficial to their health but gives men a different kind of orgasm that they couldnt even explain. So if you are willing to explore this option men, from what many men have said after using this, you will be pleasantly surprised.  talk to you doctor and see if this is right for you. If you have any questions about this subject ask away!

Xs and Os Lingerie and Gift Boutique

I added a picture link to their online store at the bottom of my blog. If there is any product not on the site that you have seen they can order ANYTHING for you. Also there a hundreds more products in the store location than on the website. I believe in this store so much! They really focus on the couple and their needs and CARE about you! They are not just there to make a sale, they educate you on the products because they do not want you to be disappointed. It is so clean and light inside and it was the first adult shop that I did not feel dirty walking into.

Question I Have Been Asked.

Q. Where is my G-Spot and how do i know I have found it?
A. The answer slightly differs from woman to woman but it is about one and a half to two and a half inches into your vagina, behind your pubic bone. The best way to feel it is to put pressure on that spot which many achieve with a "come hither" motion with the fingers or with a G-Spot toy. If while you have done this or while you are having sex you have ever gotten that "oh my gosh i am going to pee" feeling you are hitting the right spot and dont worry the more you do it the less it will feel like a urination feeling, your brain has to adjust to what is going on and no you will not pee. Your body shuts down the ability to urinate while having sex.

Q.What is the Clitoris and where is it?
A. The Clitoris is located at the top of the vagina area and varies in size but is normally pea sized and covered by the "clitoral hood" The sole purpose of the clitoris is for pleasure. Most girls find it much easier to achieve a clitoral orgasm than a G-Spot orgasm which can be achieved by manual/gentle stimulation of the skin, tongue, or a vibrator.

Q.What are nipples supposed to look like?
A. Nipples come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Some are inverted, or stand erect, and some women have one of each. Some are pink, brown, or even tan. The most important thing is if they start to change in appearance of become sore or have any discharge that isnt supposed to be there you need to go see your doctor.

Q.Are clitoral and penis pumps safe?
A.Yes, when used properly, not everyone is comfortable with using them and they are not a necessity but they can be used to enhance pleasure.

Go on a "vacation"

Even if you are just going to a hotel down the street it is good to break out of the norm and going somewhere new. Turn off your phones and make to room romantic, rose petals, candles, bubble bath, champagne. You could even break out the wedding dress and have a wedding night DO OVER! Have fun with it! I dont know about you but the wedding night isnt always what you build yourself up to hoping it is but you CAN make a new memory! Pretend you are far away and let people think you are out of town and keep that DO NOT DISTURB sign on your door :)

X's and O's Home Party (new info)

Ladies in the San Diego/LA area!!
Any occasion is a good one to have an X's and O's party! If you like to have fun and learn about many different adult products and feel them to see the difference! We also have tons of sexy lingerie! Also our number one product for military wives (Clone a Willie)

-Great prices!!!

-we have thousands of products that we do carry and we can order any product you wish to purchase

-We can come to you or you can come to out store location in Escondido for your party

-the hostess or the bride to be gets product worth 10% of the purchases made at the party.

-The hostess gets her choice of 10% off he purchase or a free pole aerobics class

-Anyone who makes a purchase of $100 dollars or more gets a free pole aerobics class

-If you make a purchase of $25 or more you receive a lifetime %15 off our products

-We ship for free (if we have to order outside of what we have)

If you have any questions or want to book your party let me know, you can either write me in the feed but you will get a faster response if you email me at Usanavictoria@yahoo.com

condoms

Condoms are very affective against both pregnancy and STD's but only when used properly. The main cause of condom failure is not breakage but improper use of them. There are different shapes and sizes for a reason and purchasing different types to try them on and see the best fit may be embarrassing and cost a a little money but it will be more embarrassing and expensive if you get a girl pregnant or catch a disease. If you use a condom that is too big it can slip off, too small and it can break. Learn how to properly put on a condom because if put on wrong it can cause the same problems. Be careful and be safe. of course this is for those who are not wanting to get pregnant and/or are wanting to protect themselves or their partner from an STD.

Tips For The The Wedding Night

I have had several friends who waited until their wedding night and been EXTREMELY nervous and disappointed. There are several things you should know before your first time as a woman.

1.The BIGGEST thing you need to remember is lubrication! i STRONGLY suggest the brand pink it has 3 healing agents in it that will help any tearing so that you are not too sore for round 2.

2. take it slow. It is not a race to the finish it is something that you have to be gentle with and work to make it special, it will not be the best sex of your life but try to make it romantic and gentle.

3. Do not expect him to last a long time (i would get a desensitizing lubridant or ointment for him or even a pill that makes him last longer, rock on and stiff nights work great for many people)The average a guy lasts 3 minutes the first time and the average girl takes 30 minutes to orgasm,  so do not expect too much.
4. explore each others bodies, you don't know what makes each other or yourself tick yet so have fun testing each other.

5. Read up on the different things you want to try and research questions you have before the big night.

6. Do not drink too much at the wedding, alcohol can make you crash or not remember and you dont want that, you may think it will relax you but it can do the opposite and make you too chatty or tired.

7. Set the mood. Light candles, put out rose petals, get some chocolate body paints, buy some bubble's for the bath, explore some toys, buy some pheromone spray, and wear some sexy lingerie.

8. It is ok to be loud don't hold it in but DON'T fake it! If you are not honest and dot tell him what works and what doesn't he will do the wrong thing every time and you may never orgasm.

9. TURN OFF ALL ELECTRONICS! shut those phones OFF, no lap tops, no TV it is about the two of you! No interruptions! mood music is ok but the rest of it has to go!

Awkward things happen to everyone

Air- MEN do not judge of laugh at us for air coming out of areas! it is technically your fault anyways!!! It is a strange normal thing that happens to women and it occurs more in certain positions.
Squirting- Be loud and proud and men feel accomplished it is a GOOD thing that so many women WISH they could do. it is NOT urine! your body shuts off that function in both men and women when turned on! 
Too Quiet- when it is too quite it can be very awkward.

Anything can become an awkward moment! it is ok to make it a light situation, say something about it, if you dont it is more awkward but it happens to EVERYONE no need to be mortified! 

Make a symbol

allow the other person to subtly know that you want some hanky panky.
some things people do but you can make it anything,
1. hang something on the door (a tie, a thong, a hat, anything)
2. light candles (wither a special one or a bunch)
3. where something that you decide on
4. a code word

you can make it anything those are just a few suggestions. make it fun and if you have children make it subtle.

Pole Aerobics

I did my certification class for pole aerobics this weekend and it was quite a workout! let me tell you! I see a fun future ahead of me! I was so sore after 8 hours of working out! It was intense but GREAT! I will have my website up soon with pricing and appointment times that are available! but it is an amazing way to work out, have fun, and feel sexy!

What is sexy?

Sexy is confidence! If you are not feeling confident do something to build it! give yourself the tools and knowledge to be that confident woman that is in each and every one of us. It may be deep down there but we all have a fire that burns and wants to be sexy. Go out of your comfort zone and push yourself to try new and exciting things!
some ideas
1.try a pole aerobics class
2.buy some costumes
3.try some new toys
4.go to a sex therepist
5.dress the part (try some tighter fitting clothes that are still classy, confidence is in knowing your own body and dressing in a way that is not overly sexed up but is showing just enough to keep you guessing.)
6.look into the other persons eyes when talking to them
7.good posture (this is a HUGE one, it shows that you have integrity and are comfortable in your environment)
These are just a few suggestions to make you feel more sexy! It is very important when having an amazing sex life! 

Vows

Once you have been married for a while sometimes we get stuck in life. We need a change and a little romance. Redo your vows! make new ones that go along with your life now! Plan 2 dates, one where you discuss this topic and then you will show them to each other on the next date. It can be a mixture of fun and silly things like; "i vow never to buy mustard" or "I vow to never wear that _______ again," or serious/romantic things "I vow to give you a back massage on Friday nights," or "I vow to schedule sex for at least one night a week." Keep it light but serious at the same and explain why you chose those things and it shows how much you listen to and know each other by the things that you choose that you know they want.

He doesnt want it!

I know the stereotype is that women do not want to have sex and men are frustrated, but i have found with many of my friends it is the men who cant keep up which can be frustrating for the women. Sometimes this makes the men want sex even less because they feel like something is wrong with them and they dont measure up to their sexual partner so they do not want to try. The biggest thing is communication! Talk through all of your issues and let him know that you are attracted to him and you think he is sexy! the words "sexy" and "hot" make men jump out of their skin. Also let him know how great he is in bed and that you just want more of him! If it feels like that is not getting to him then there is a bigger issue, either erectile dysfunction, which he could be ashamed of and doesn't want to go to the doctor, or something even deeper. Talking is the biggest way for men or women to get their lover to want them in bed!

Polls

I will be posting a new relationship related poll on the left hand side of my blog every week. feel free to answer it is anonymous! :)

A month of sex

Try it! Every day try something new! Greet him at the door in lingerie and christen your living room couch, take him in the shower, set up a sexy picnic in your room with whipped cream, strawberries, and chocolate body paint, take the car somewhere secluded, meet him at the office. Make every day an adventure!
I know what you are thinking "SADDLE SORE!" take a look at the second item on this blog
http://controversialstudiossa.blogspot.com/2010/03/tub-time.html
for a lubricant that will help with that! remember GET RID OF THE EXCUSES!  Doing this will bring you closer than ever to each other more than ever. It should bring out conversation for you and give you both a stronger physical connection.

Try something new!

As married couples we tend to get in a rut and have a "sex routine." Blow his mind and try something new!
Like i said in the other post, put a vibrator against your cheek while giving him oral. Buy a new costume (or pull one out that has been sitting there for a while) having that mentality of "being the nurse" or any other person gives a lot of people the ability to try things they wouldnt have before just as themselves and almost an "excuse" to break out of the rut.
Try a new toy! go in together (or surprise your partner) with a new toy, whether it is a vibrating ring, a tongue vibe, the We Vibe (can be used DURING sex as a gspot and clitoral stimulator and feels great for both of you) check out my older posts to  get more info on that.
The biggest thing is make sex fun! It is not just a thing to get "over with." It was made for us!

Romantic Adventure!

continue to date your spouse no matter how long you have been together or how well you know each other. You need that one one one time to get and stay connected! You need your regular time together to bring back memories and turn back the clock on your relationship.
Get out of the rut if you are doing the same thing every week (dinner and a movie). Couples need to go on adventures together. Go for a weekend to Vegas, gamble, go virtual skydiving, an oxygen bar. Go on a 50's date and dress up and go bowling and to the roller skating rink (and to the drive in if there is one by you.) Continue to pursue each other in ways you never have before. Just because you now have the person doesn't mean you just give up and become a stereotypical married couple. 
Go to the beach and walk along the pier (or if you don't have one near by go to the park or a pond) there is something about the moonlight on the water that makes it so romantic. GUYS- if a girl is feeling pursued and adored and is getting special treatment you are more likely to get LUCKY! It is a win/win!
If you are parents you need this time more than ever! It may seem less likely and you may be thinking about your children the whole time but it is still good for you both.

your homework assignment! plan a romantic date with your significant other that is out of the ordinary for you!
Put time and effort into each other! that is how a marriage lasts! 

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Sexy Shoes

http://xsandoslingerie.com/458-ballerina.aspx

Sexy Shoes make an outfit and these definitely are worthy for the eyes! I want these so bad! i am hoping the next holiday my husband will let me buy them! With a 4.5 " Metallic Heel and a short .25" Platform this Clear heel comes ready to compliment anything in your wardrobe with 7 Different Color Ribbons.
Ribbon Colors: Baby Pink, Gold, Purple, White, Baby Blue, Black & Red. They are only $49.99 which is a great price and this website gives you free shipping on orders of $100 or more. all of the links will be the same website.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/512-mimi.aspx

I think i want every single one of these. They are classy and i love the two toned colors and the lacing in the front. lovely 5 inch heel. These are a definite way to get his attention! Comes in four, two toned color options. Black with White, Black with Fuschia, Black with Red, White with Red, Pink with Black, Pink with White. These are only $39.99. 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/ph511-paige.aspx

These are perfectly my style. i love polka dots and ribbon they also have a hanging charm in the back which is super cute! These are $54.99 and worth every penny!

This stunning shoe comes in black with white polka dots and a red bow. This retro shoe has a 4.5 inch tall heel and is made out of microfiber satin.Colors: Black/Red/White. Also available in White/Black and Black/White/Pink by special order only. (Please call to special order.) Also call to order special sizes. They carry 6-10 but they make them in 5-12 and can order them for you.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/buttons.aspx

I LOVE THESE! I want both the white one and the black on the right. I have the ankle version of this shoe and LOVE it but there is nothing like knee high boots.  These beauties are only $69.99 and are gorgeous. I dont know why but buttons draw me in like the polka dots. 

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/601-brook.aspx

These are your classic clear stripper heals which also come in a variety of colors http://xsandoslingerie.com/601-juliet.aspx. I have these and the are surprisingly comfortable. They have a 6" stiletto pointed heel with a 2" platform and are only $44.99.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/609-nancieblackandpink.aspx

 

These are a very cute alternative to the "stripper heals" which should be in every girls collection i have the classic clear heals but i think i am going to get one of these as well.  These of on sale for $39.99 right now which is a FANTASTIC price!

Delight

http://xsandoslingerie.com/delight.aspx

This is a more high end toy that is a g-spot and clitoral stimulator at THE SAME TIME! Wowza! Most girls can not have a gspot orgasm without clitoral stimulation! This is 100% normal!!!! This is why we fake it sometimes (i did for a while but when i finally told my husband things turned around and were AMAZING for both of us!) This beauty truly is a DELIGHT! It recharges ITSELF while resting! The case makes this a discreet toy that can stay in your sock drawer and it is a beautiful design so if you are in to showcasing your toys this would be an amazing edition!


External outlet for charging

Illuminated controls are easy to operate with one's thumb

The curl is held with two fingers

Sides made from smooth, shiny, skin-friendly plastic

Carrying case is both a travel box and a recharger

An extra protrusion stimulates the clitoris

Made from 100% Medical Grade silicone, hook tickles the G-Spot

Silicone + Thermoplast

Tub Time!

Everyone knows it can be hard in the shower but i have some things that can make it easier. some of these you will have to call in the order but the owners of this store are AMAZING and can order you anything and have GREAT prices!

http://xsandoslingerie.com/pjurerossiliconelubricant100ml.aspx

NUMBER ONE!!!!! SILICON LUBRICANT!
You dont need to get his brand but you NEED silicon lubricant! the water will wash your natural lubricant down the drain! My favorite is Pink Lubricant

this you will have to call in and order but they do carry it in the store. It has healing properties to help you not be sore after the act. When you do it in the shower a lot of times you will be a little rougher which can make this worse. Microscopic tears make you saddle sore and this prevents/heals this.

WARNING - you do not want to use silicon lubricant with your gummy or silicon toys! it is safe with glass and condoms!

http://xsandoslingerie.com/dream14.aspx

#2. Waterproof vibrators! This one is super quiet and all of the vibration is in the tip so VAVAVOOM! :) this one has a little sister that has less power. this one takes AA batteries, enough said! but this is also a great one if you have kids because this one is so quiet. 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/treasuresofthesea.aspx

#3. Bath salts are always fun! they leave you feeling smooth and soft. have funny exfoliating each other.  It comes with a real sea shell scoop. This is just a mood enhancer or use it for and with yourself and your smooth skin will give you empowerment and make you feel sexier.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/waterproofvibratingsponge.aspx

http://xsandoslingerie.com/pulsabathpurple.aspx

#4. Vibrating sponges. These a fantastic! Add a little fun when you are washing each other! 

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/sexbubblesbubblebath8oz.aspx

#5. Bubbles! This is always fun whether you are together or by yourself bubbles always make me feel luxurious. 

Wow it is hard to find a picture of the sex in the shower kit but they are suction handles and foot steps that they sell at the shop and help out SO much!!!!!!!!!

I hope these help you out so much!!!!!!!!!!!!

body tickler

http://xsandoslingerie.com/ostrichtickler.aspx

This is a fun addition to a bed room. get a skinny vase and a couple of these and decorate it and no one will ever know that they are more than a decoration. These ones a so gentle and light and feel incredible just lightly touched against the skin.

Lover's Paintbox

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/loverspaintbox.aspx

My husband and I got this as one of our wedding presents from a groomsmen. It tasted SO yummy and i am very picky about chocolates. The jars have a generous amount in them and the paintbrush was really easy to use!  You will have a blast drawing and writing fun things on each other's bodies!

Set contains: 2 oz each of Kama Sutra dark, milk and white chocolate body paints and a body paintbrush to create your masterpiece. 

52 Weeks of Romance

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52weeksofromance.aspx

Do you sometimes find yourself in a funk when trying to figure out what to do for your date nights? Well this is a perfect way to get out of that funk.Romantic thrills, unexpected surprises, passionate expressions of love, and playful games of seduction are all temptations that you can expect to find inside! Simply pull a card from the silk pouch and see what romantic surprise awaits you and your spouse. The year's supply of "scratch and win" cards include romantic IOU's, suggestions, coupons, interludes, and more.

Ki-Wi

http://xsandoslingerie.com/kiwi.aspx

 I have not tried her yet but doing home parties i have turned this baby on and know I would LOVE her. This is super cute the tip glows hot pink and it is just a unique and interesting toy. If you are into trying new products this is definitely for you! It is an easy hold design and has a soft/rubbery feel at the tip and has a LOT of power!
Here are the details
\Whisper quiet with three different levels of vibration PLUS seven different pulse patterns. She even has a HOT PINK tip that glows and blinks along with each pattern. With her clean sleek and modern design, this surprising little toy will become a quick favorite for those who love to have their special spots tickled!

*Waterproof
*Phthalate-free silicone and ABS plastic
*Requires 2 AAA batteries (not included)
*Toy measures 5"l x 2"d
*Box measures 6.5" x 3.5" x 2"

Bridal Shower Gift Ideas

I have been at a LOSS for bridal shower gifts so many times but here are some great ideas that i am actually going to use for a couple bridal showers i am going to be going to! (these are classy)

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52tipsforthebride.aspx

 52 Tips For The Bride-to-Be

These tidbits and strategies will help you create the wedding of your dreams without losing too much sleep or your sense of humor. Comes as a deck of 52 cards.

                                            http://xsandoslingerie.com/adeluxebedofroses.aspx

The Deluxe Bed Of Roses

This it a subtle gift that wont embarrass her but you know will get used! this will be perfect for them to pack for the wedding night (or you can buy it as the bridesmaids and decorate the wedding suit) <- i am a wedding coordinator and i have had a lot of girls do that. The couple (especially the bride) will really enjoy this!
Includes over two hundred scented silk rose petals, rose scented bubble bath(2OZ.), edible gourmet chocolate massage oil (2OZ.), a back massager, four romantic tea lights, and a very special invitation card all packaged in a black satin carrying case!

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/abedofroseswhite.aspx

 A Bed of White Roses

This is absolutely perfect for the wedding night. The white roses will make a beautiful edition to the wedding suite. A classy and elegant inexpensive gift for the bride that she will love.

 http://xsandoslingerie.com/dreamsiclesuntouchedcandle.aspx

 Suntouched Candle

 This candle is very similare to the kissable candle i posted up (which would be a good choice as well) but this is a massage candle that burns at a couple degrees above body temperature which means you can pour it directly on to the skin. It becomes a VERY moisturizing massage oil that is 100%natural and well as 100% vegan. She will enjoy this simple gift that will bring her many massages!
This is my favorite scent it smells like a 50/50 bar, but they have many other scents you can browse the site for.
*Fragrant Natural Soy-Oil Candle burns longer & cleaner
*Melts into a warming, silky massage oil
*Penetrates and moisturizes skin
*8 Natural Oils including Hemp Seed,Vitamin E, Jojoba, Avocado, and Almond leave skin soft and smooth.
*Use right out of the shower or bath
*100% Vegan, Non-Toxic

http://xsandoslingerie.com/fantasysuite.aspx

Fantasy Suite

This one is a little pricier but it has a LOT going on. The kit includes very berry warming massage oil, cocoalicious chocolate body paint with paintbrush, two glass champagne flutes, a full size champagne bucket, two black satin robes, one thousand scented silk rose petals in a sexy organza pouch, a set of three pillar candles, fifty tea lights, the signature top selling Amazing Hot Heart Massager™ and a CD with romantic music. That sounds like a lot of good nights to me! The couple well thank you forever for this gift. Again this is a classy gift that is not embarrassing to open. So if she is shy or has parents (or you are the parent) this is an appropriate gift.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/romanticmassagekit.aspx

Romantic Massage Kit

The Romantic Massage Kit includes a massager, tropical scented oil, candles, and a guide to improve your massage skills. This is a classy gift with a non graphic cover that also will be classy to open. She will enjoy this as will her husband. 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/sweetcelebrationbox.aspx

Sweet Celebrations Box

 This kit is beautiful and comes with a lot of goodies. The kit includes   Set contains full sizes of: Vanilla Crème Oil of Love, French Vanilla Crème Body Soufflé, Pleasure Garden Massage Oil, Sweet Honeysuckle Boudoir Puff in a pure white satin bag and lightly fragranced rose petals encased in an organza bag. This may be one of the gifts people say "Oooo" to because the name is Kamasutra that makes it but it is still a classy gift and since it has white rose petals it would be perfect for the wedding night.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/silkysheetsplumeriawphermones.aspx

Silky Sheets

This is a pheromone spray for your sheets or clean clothes. It helps you get in the mood and stay in the mood and smells amazing and clean. This is a great gift that is safe to get a bride-to-be. 

There are a few of my bridal shower suggestions. I hope they help you in your quest for an amazing shower gift. I will post bachelorette party gifts in a later blog!

X's and O's Home Party

http://xsandoslingerie.com/xsandoslingerieparties.aspx

Are you in the San Diego/LA area? Whether you know someone getting married or having an anniversary or do you just want to have an educational perspective of intimacy products that are designed to enhance your sexuality then this is for you. I had one of these for my bridal shower and the owners of this company are AMAZING! They are so knowledgeable of the product and the human anatomy and if they do not have the answer to your problem they will do their homework and get you an answer! This is such a relaxed and open environment and no question is too far fetched. 

Click the link above to learn more about these parties! 

We Vibe II

THE BEST TOY! in my opinion this is the best! It is made to be used DURING sex. This brings the right pressure and vibration to all of the right spots for BOTH of you! I have the We Vibe I and it in itself is amazing and only has 2 speeds. This one has 3 speeds and multiple pulses. I can only imagine how much better this one is! This one comes with a satin bag, mine came with a sun glass case which i think is such a good idea because no one would know what was in there or think anything of it if it was sitting on your dresser or in a drawer.



http://xsandoslingerie.com/we-vibeII.aspx

here is the description!

Introducing The World's First Couples Vibrator!

Unique in design, this revolutionary product is the first ever vibrator that can be used while making love. The innovative design allows for both external clitoral and internal g-spot stimulation for women.

The We-Vibe II is hands free, strap free and wireless. Created from 100% medical grade silicone, it’s soft, comfortable and easy to use. Treat yourself and your spouse to A New Dimension In Pleasure™.

The We-Vibe's anatomical shape will fit women's internal contours and will naturally and comfortably nestle in and massage the G-Spot. The flexible We-Vibe II will conform inside you to accommodate the shape of the vagina while making love in different positions.

What's New with the We-Vibe II?
With 9 exciting new modes designed to provide maximum climatic stimulation (Low Speed - High Speed - Throb - Wave - Pulse - Ramp - Tease - Ascending - Cha-Cha) and sensually designed to please you and your partner, it’s easy to understand why women and couples around the world are saying "Yes, We-Vibe!".

We-Vibe II makes it even easier "to get turned on" with a new intuitive push button easy to find on the We-Vibe II's nose. With just one push you're turned on to Low Speed, push again and you move from one sensual style to the next.

Treat yourself to Harmonic Throbbing™ and enjoy Throb or Ascending, Wave or Pulse, Tease or Cha-Cha; if you're even more daring, try all 9 modes for an intimate night you and your partner will never forget!

Finished with your We-Vibe II? Simply hold down the push button for two seconds to turn it off. Did you forget and fall asleep? Don't worry, your We-Vibe now has an automatic shut-off, indicating its time to charge.

At the push of a button, get turned on again with your favorite vibe within an hour of use. The We-Vibe II remembers your last vibration mode, and resumes play!

Aphrodite

AMAZING! i love this! We were actually looking for a back massager and this works great for that but it is also a wonderful toy as well! The medium setting has an inferred heating element which feels awesome on the lower back. It holds a charge for a very long time and it is rechargeable so you do not have to buy batteries over and over.
http://xsandoslingerie.com/aphrodite.aspx


As seen on Oprah, this popular sex toy is back in stock! Relax yourself completely with this infrared massager that has soft, interchangeable heads and two speeds of vibration. This product is designed to provide powerful vibrations for intense orgasms and muscle tension relief (as is our Rechargeable Infrared Massager. Hand-held massager has an infrared head on one side and three interchangeable sleeves on the other for a variety of sensations Massaging head with Flexo-Joint is designed to move with you and can be used for muscle relaxation as well as erogenous zone stimulation Choose from high and low vibration, with infrared heat available on low to provide warming, soothing sensations Attachments are smooth, pinpoint, and nubby for a unique feel, and they are very easy to add and remove Rechargeable massager comes with a 110-volt AC charger to charge the internal battery (compatible with standard US outlets only). Please Note: When in use, the massager operates off its internal battery and will only last as long as the charge lasts (12 hours of charge = 1 hour of use); it is not designed to charge while in use or to use while being plugged in.

Role Play

Role Playing is a fun way to keep you marriage fresh. I recently asked the girls on http://www.asailorsanchor.com/forums/index.php (a forum for navy wives) about new roll playing ideas. Here are some costumes that i have (some are not available right now) Some are pictures of me and some are models.  i love all of my costumes!

1.Dorothy
The Costume
http://xsandoslingerie.com/dorothygirl.aspx  

2.Gingerbread Girl
The costume is not available right now but will be available around the holidays and i will post the link when it is back out!

3.french maid
Costume
http://xsandoslingerie.com/charmingchambermaid.aspx

4.Nurse 
Costume
http://xsandoslingerie.com/nurse.aspx
I really want those shoes though! and i have fishnets with medical crosses on top instead of the white! Oh and the stethoscope actually works well!

5. Safari Girl (lion tamer) I would have posted a picture of me in it but i was pregnant and i was trick or treating with my son :)
The costume
http://xsandoslingerie.com/safarigirl.aspx
stockings

http://xsandoslingerie.com/9040lycraindustrialnetstockings.aspx

 

 

6.Sailor Girl 
Costume
you would have to call in (it is available) just ask for the sailor outfit Victoria Rocca wore, they know me well
(760)737-9469  the shop is called X's and O's Lingerie and Gift Boutique


7. I have your usual hooker/ stripper getup!
here are some items i have for this
corset/lingerie  - here are a few examples
http://xsandoslingerie.com/alluringset.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/evacorset.aspxhttp://xsandoslingerie.com/butterflyjacquardcorset.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/thedivaset.aspx
garter belts are always a nice touch for this look
http://xsandoslingerie.com/stretchlacegarterbelt.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/stretchjacquardandembroiderygaterbelt.aspx
and stockings
http://xsandoslingerie.com/9014fencenetstockings.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/9112fishnetthighhighswbackseam.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/9040lycraindustrialnetstockings.aspx
Shoes
http://xsandoslingerie.com/601-brook.aspx
http://xsandoslingerie.com/609-nancieblackandpink.aspx

Mix and match and aspects of this one can be parts of other costumes you have! i make Halloween and holidays an excuse to buy a new outfit and my husband is very happy for that!

8. Raggedy Anne
 This was my first one i ever got! i love it but it is not on the website but they can order this one as well. i believe the stockings come with it! :)


I believe that is all of the costumes that i have right now! if you have any ideas! let me know! 

OH mi panty

This is number one on my wish list from my hubby. I will post the description because it does so much and i have not yet tried it.
http://xsandoslingerie.com/ohmipanty.aspx
OhMiPanty by OhMiBod is a wearable bullet with a velvety finish. It vibrates and pulses with the ambient sounds in any room - even to your lover's voice - giving you an extra thrill with every pulse. The discreet controller clips to your waistband. Have sexy fun wherever the two of you go. And the fun doesn’t end there! OhMiPanty also works with your iPod® iPhone™ or any mp3 player, has a manual mode allowing you to choose from seven vibrating patterns. OhMiPanty brings a whole new level of pleasure to your mood music, sexy silhouette dancing, or date night experience. No matter how you listen to your music, OhMiPanty will rock BOTH of your worlds. Choose from Ambient, Manual and Music Modes.
Specs: Bullet vibe measures 1 ½" long and ¾" in diameter. Controller measures 3" long, by 1 ½" wide and ¾" deep. Molded from premium grade hypoallergenic non-toxic, non-porous ABS plastic with PU coating for velvety finish. Phthalate free. Includes Bullet vibrator and controller, Black thong (OSFM - one size fits most), Splitter, Velvet privacy pouch, 2 AAA Batteries and a 1-year OhMiBod warranty.

Warming Heart Massager

This one is super cool. There is a little disc inside the heart and when you bend it inside it will make a pop sound and the whole thing turns firm and hearts up. it stays hot for a long time. When you finish you put it in boiling water and it goes back to its normal feel until you want to use it again!
http://xsandoslingerie.com/amazinghotheartmassager.aspx

A bed of roses

I love it when my husband puts out roses, but girls can do it for their guys as well. it makes the atmosphere so nice! i like to bring them with me whenever we are staying in a hotel or go on vacation. Also i will randomly light the candles and put out the rose pedals when i know he has had a long day, even if it is just to give him a massage!
http://xsandoslingerie.com/abedofroses.aspx

here is the description on the website
This wonderfully romantic travel pack contains 4 tea lights, scented silk rose petals, and an invitation for you and your sweetheart! By using the bed of roses you can create a safe and romantic environment that can spark the passion in your marriage! This is one of the easiest ways for a husband to score some romantic points. Next time you are planning a get away for the two of you, don't forget the bed of roses.

Get rid of the excuses

Get rid of the excuses. If you are married the times when you feel like saying no and making excuses those are the times when you as a couple need it! Sex is meant to be in your marriage take that time and it actually helps with the exact things you complain about. you will get better sleep, be more relaxed, and will bring you closer together emotionally and physically.
If you aren't feeling very close and that is why you don't want to do it! what gets you closer than exploring each others bodies! Do not be afraid to experiment an make it fun together, you will learn so much about each other. Also do not be scared to talk about your wants and needs in bed. communicate, 9 times out of 10 he wants to hear those things! Go to the shop together and pick out lingerie or a new toy.
GUYS girls want your opinions and want you to tell them what you want to see them in.
Have fun!
We are called to be one flesh and the missionary position is not the only one! As a Christian woman i want to be the best lover i can. Do research find different things to surprise him with.
for example- surprise him with some oral, but instead of the usual put a vibrator against your cheek! he wont know what hit him. try different lubes and toys! see what works for you! but remember it is not a replacement for him it is for you to use together!
dress up, bring a little role playing into the bedroom. you can make just about anything sexy. Be a Dr, a student, the teacher, a pirate, a zookeeper, just be out of the ordinary. :) i have a lot of costumes and love wearing them. it is easier for me to be more wild if i am not "me"
buy a new game! that way you don't have to come up with the ideas the game will tell you what to do. they are fun but make a deal that it is OK to skip things if uncomfortable.
try something new! it can be an all the time thing it doesn't have to be saved for a special occasion!
check out http://xsandoslingerie.com/ for some ideas and gifts! it is the shop i work for. we do home parties and you can just come in but you don't have to shop there i just want you to have a good relationship and get close and know it is OK!

52 dates

This is an amazing little deck of cards that give you great ideas for dates while on a budget. They are all extremely fun and some are very original. My husband and i purchased this in the beginning of our marriage and we have used quite a few of these! We have been able to not think about have to spend a ton of money to continue dating each other. This nice little deck takes out our biggest excuse of why we do not go out on dates with our spouses. It is so important to spend that one on one quality time together.
if you would like to purchase these here is the link
http://xsandoslingerie.com/52greatcheapdates.aspx

 This deck has some extreme dates (we have not done as many of these as the others) but some are super fun and some do not cost any money to do. I know you will enjoy some of these. Every couple of months we pick one of these cards at random and complete the task

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52romanticadventures.aspx

massage candle

This is my favorite candle! It is a kissable massage candle. I will post the description below. This one smells like watermelon jolly ranchers and burns only a couple of degrees above body temperature so it is safe to pour directly to the skin or dip your finger into the oil. They are made from all natural ingredients and have no preservatives. I like to burn it while i am in the shower and just use it as a lotion it also comes in a non edible version which comes in many different scents. Here is the link to this candle but you can look at many other scents on this website as well.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/watermelonediblemassagecandle.aspx

Earthly Body's Watermelon Massage Candle is a great gift for an anniversary or birthday present for your honey. It is even a great gift for a friend who is getting married. This deliciously scented massage candle has a sweet watermelon aroma. Light the candle to set the mood, scoop the warm melted oil directly out of the candle while lit, and drizzle the soothing oil on your spouses skin and massage away. The oil will not leave the skin oily because it is also a moisturizer. And as a bonus the watermelon massage candle is edible which allows for a tasty sensual massage.

My reason for this blog

I have a strong desire to empower and give knowledge to couples and give them the tools to make their marriage and sex life a success. I strongly believe sex is best when saved for marriage, research (including self experience) has shown the hurtful affects of promiscuity prior to marriage but there is a way to overcome it.
You are more likely to not have as strong of an intimate bond with your spouse  if you have not remained faithful before marriage. Make it fun, know your body, and tell each other what you need! You need to be open to explore different avenues as well as be comfortable enough to tell your partner if you are not comfortable with something.
As a Christian woman i know that the times when i do not want to have sex with my husband are the times i need to the most. The intimacy and the bond that it creates helps you overcome so much and brings you closer together and into a realm where you can talk about key issues.

If you have any questions or issues you would like me to discuss i am an open book. Do not be afraid to ask no question is stupid!

Wet Together

This lubricant can be compared to the KY yours and mine. This has been flying off the shelves at the bottom i posted the description of this. I bought it and we LOVE it! my son spilled half of the "hers" side :( that made me sad but you only need a little bit of the hers. unlike the KY brand these NEVER mix because one side is water based and the other is silicon based so it is like oil and water and you feeling that is best for you stays there but when they transfer from the "act" the feeling of both is AMAZING! I will only post products on here that I, myself have tried and recommend!

here is the link if you want to purchase it (I do not make a profit off of the sale but i so recommend it!!!!)

http://xsandoslingerie.com/wettogether.aspx

here is the description.

His warms. Hers tingles. She applies his to him. He applies hers to her. The intimate act of touching makes the connection. The two unite, body to body, heart to heart. Two exciting sensations…Become ONE…together™.

When combined, skin to skin, both unique Wet® together™ formulas provide longer lasting, silky smooth lubrication and sensation. Use as needed to supplement natural moisture and gently enhance pleasure. Reapply as desired. Easily washes away with mild soap and warm water. Will not harm latex.