Eden

If you dont like you masturbation sleeve to look graphic this is an AMAZING one. I have only heard great things from this one. it has the two finger holes for grip. (my personal suggestion is for her to use it on him) The finger holes also are the right size for a bullet (i suggest the Rocks off 80mm bullet) and add an extra sensation for him. It is also highly ribbed and feels very real. it is easily turned inside out to clean. Also when he is about to orgasm if you stretch it you suck the orgasm right out of him.

Use the tools of the trade!

I just recently saw this "tool" I have not purchased it but i think it look cool. It is called the Sqweel. It has rotating tongues that give you the feeling of oral sex. It is very easy to clean and to use. It takes 3 triple A batteries. I like the design because it isn't your normal vibration, I am interested in hearing reviews from people who have purchased this.

What do you wish guys would do?

So one of the nights of the cruise, i posted prior to this one, We are separating the men and women, There will be several things for the ladies like chair dance class and a few other things we have not figured out yet, but for the guys we will be having some sort of group meet and we are trying to decided what it should be focusing on. Here are some examples we came up with, but what would you want your man to work on that would make you more willing to make love to him?
I have to say  we ALL want our men to pitch in more at home and give us the time to feel like sexy women...but would you like him to learn
1) relaxing massage, that would connect the two of you BEFORE hanky panky starts
2) Dress up, just like he wants us in Lingerie and set up a romantic seduction scene or
3) learn to talk to me in a romantic way that makes me want to be more sexual

(that doesn't imply he needs to wear lingerie.....just "PUT SOME EFFORT INTO IT!")

just ideas
if you have an other please write it in we are looking for anything you are wanting or women want in general

Xs and Os is taking a cruise

The X's & O's Lingerie Cruise (soon to be cleverly named) is well underway in the planning stages!! Met w/ Debi King to go over possibilities & brainstorm! Workshop/s offered for the couples, guest speaker/s, SPECIAL GOODIES delivered to enjoy at "bed-time", "Homework assignments" for building/rekindling the flame in the bedroom, etc! Who can say NO to Time Away from the MADNESS of LIFE?

The date will be picked soon it is between Dec 6 (a four day cruise) or Feb 20th (5 day cruise) 

If you are interested or want to hear more i will be posting updates on it while i get them! 

The cruise will include a chair dance lesson by yours truly as well to practice that night with your lover! :)

sexy photoshoot

surprise your lover with a sexy photo album! now with printers in almost every household we no longer have to be embarrassed taking intimate photos in or have them possibly confiscated. Use lingerie you already have or use it as an excuse to buy a new set. You can find a photographer who does these but they are usually a little pricey but you can do them yourself and save some money but it is nice to go into a studio and have someone tell you what looks good and has experience with shoots like this but make sure it is someone you are comfortable with or else it will show in the pictures.
Take one of your mans button up shirts so you can do a morning after shot.
Take some costumes along.
Have fun with it and dont be embarrassed he will love them and he will be the one looking at them!

Go on a "vacation"

Even if you are just going to a hotel down the street it is good to break out of the norm and going somewhere new. Turn off your phones and make to room romantic, rose petals, candles, bubble bath, champagne. You could even break out the wedding dress and have a wedding night DO OVER! Have fun with it! I dont know about you but the wedding night isnt always what you build yourself up to hoping it is but you CAN make a new memory! Pretend you are far away and let people think you are out of town and keep that DO NOT DISTURB sign on your door :)

X's and O's Home Party (new info)

Ladies in the San Diego/LA area!!
Any occasion is a good one to have an X's and O's party! If you like to have fun and learn about many different adult products and feel them to see the difference! We also have tons of sexy lingerie! Also our number one product for military wives (Clone a Willie)

-Great prices!!!

-we have thousands of products that we do carry and we can order any product you wish to purchase

-We can come to you or you can come to out store location in Escondido for your party

-the hostess or the bride to be gets product worth 10% of the purchases made at the party.

-The hostess gets her choice of 10% off he purchase or a free pole aerobics class

-Anyone who makes a purchase of $100 dollars or more gets a free pole aerobics class

-If you make a purchase of $25 or more you receive a lifetime %15 off our products

-We ship for free (if we have to order outside of what we have)

If you have any questions or want to book your party let me know, you can either write me in the feed but you will get a faster response if you email me at Usanavictoria@yahoo.com

Tips For The The Wedding Night

I have had several friends who waited until their wedding night and been EXTREMELY nervous and disappointed. There are several things you should know before your first time as a woman.

1.The BIGGEST thing you need to remember is lubrication! i STRONGLY suggest the brand pink it has 3 healing agents in it that will help any tearing so that you are not too sore for round 2.

2. take it slow. It is not a race to the finish it is something that you have to be gentle with and work to make it special, it will not be the best sex of your life but try to make it romantic and gentle.

3. Do not expect him to last a long time (i would get a desensitizing lubridant or ointment for him or even a pill that makes him last longer, rock on and stiff nights work great for many people)The average a guy lasts 3 minutes the first time and the average girl takes 30 minutes to orgasm,  so do not expect too much.
4. explore each others bodies, you don't know what makes each other or yourself tick yet so have fun testing each other.

5. Read up on the different things you want to try and research questions you have before the big night.

6. Do not drink too much at the wedding, alcohol can make you crash or not remember and you dont want that, you may think it will relax you but it can do the opposite and make you too chatty or tired.

7. Set the mood. Light candles, put out rose petals, get some chocolate body paints, buy some bubble's for the bath, explore some toys, buy some pheromone spray, and wear some sexy lingerie.

8. It is ok to be loud don't hold it in but DON'T fake it! If you are not honest and dot tell him what works and what doesn't he will do the wrong thing every time and you may never orgasm.

9. TURN OFF ALL ELECTRONICS! shut those phones OFF, no lap tops, no TV it is about the two of you! No interruptions! mood music is ok but the rest of it has to go!

Vows

Once you have been married for a while sometimes we get stuck in life. We need a change and a little romance. Redo your vows! make new ones that go along with your life now! Plan 2 dates, one where you discuss this topic and then you will show them to each other on the next date. It can be a mixture of fun and silly things like; "i vow never to buy mustard" or "I vow to never wear that _______ again," or serious/romantic things "I vow to give you a back massage on Friday nights," or "I vow to schedule sex for at least one night a week." Keep it light but serious at the same and explain why you chose those things and it shows how much you listen to and know each other by the things that you choose that you know they want.

Polls

I will be posting a new relationship related poll on the left hand side of my blog every week. feel free to answer it is anonymous! :)

A month of sex

Try it! Every day try something new! Greet him at the door in lingerie and christen your living room couch, take him in the shower, set up a sexy picnic in your room with whipped cream, strawberries, and chocolate body paint, take the car somewhere secluded, meet him at the office. Make every day an adventure!
I know what you are thinking "SADDLE SORE!" take a look at the second item on this blog
http://controversialstudiossa.blogspot.com/2010/03/tub-time.html
for a lubricant that will help with that! remember GET RID OF THE EXCUSES!  Doing this will bring you closer than ever to each other more than ever. It should bring out conversation for you and give you both a stronger physical connection.

Romantic Adventure!

continue to date your spouse no matter how long you have been together or how well you know each other. You need that one one one time to get and stay connected! You need your regular time together to bring back memories and turn back the clock on your relationship.
Get out of the rut if you are doing the same thing every week (dinner and a movie). Couples need to go on adventures together. Go for a weekend to Vegas, gamble, go virtual skydiving, an oxygen bar. Go on a 50's date and dress up and go bowling and to the roller skating rink (and to the drive in if there is one by you.) Continue to pursue each other in ways you never have before. Just because you now have the person doesn't mean you just give up and become a stereotypical married couple. 
Go to the beach and walk along the pier (or if you don't have one near by go to the park or a pond) there is something about the moonlight on the water that makes it so romantic. GUYS- if a girl is feeling pursued and adored and is getting special treatment you are more likely to get LUCKY! It is a win/win!
If you are parents you need this time more than ever! It may seem less likely and you may be thinking about your children the whole time but it is still good for you both.

your homework assignment! plan a romantic date with your significant other that is out of the ordinary for you!
Put time and effort into each other! that is how a marriage lasts! 

YOU COULD WIN A NICE PRIZE

After i reach 100 followers i will be randomly selecting a name out of my followers to win a nice surprise! You do have to be over 18 to collect the prize as it may be naughty! Have fun and i hope you enjoy my blog.
Email me if you have any questions or any suggestions for new blogs or have products you would like me to look into.

Tub Time!

Everyone knows it can be hard in the shower but i have some things that can make it easier. some of these you will have to call in the order but the owners of this store are AMAZING and can order you anything and have GREAT prices!

http://xsandoslingerie.com/pjurerossiliconelubricant100ml.aspx

NUMBER ONE!!!!! SILICON LUBRICANT!
You dont need to get his brand but you NEED silicon lubricant! the water will wash your natural lubricant down the drain! My favorite is Pink Lubricant

this you will have to call in and order but they do carry it in the store. It has healing properties to help you not be sore after the act. When you do it in the shower a lot of times you will be a little rougher which can make this worse. Microscopic tears make you saddle sore and this prevents/heals this.

WARNING - you do not want to use silicon lubricant with your gummy or silicon toys! it is safe with glass and condoms!

http://xsandoslingerie.com/dream14.aspx

#2. Waterproof vibrators! This one is super quiet and all of the vibration is in the tip so VAVAVOOM! :) this one has a little sister that has less power. this one takes AA batteries, enough said! but this is also a great one if you have kids because this one is so quiet. 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/treasuresofthesea.aspx

#3. Bath salts are always fun! they leave you feeling smooth and soft. have funny exfoliating each other.  It comes with a real sea shell scoop. This is just a mood enhancer or use it for and with yourself and your smooth skin will give you empowerment and make you feel sexier.

http://xsandoslingerie.com/waterproofvibratingsponge.aspx

http://xsandoslingerie.com/pulsabathpurple.aspx

#4. Vibrating sponges. These a fantastic! Add a little fun when you are washing each other! 

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/sexbubblesbubblebath8oz.aspx

#5. Bubbles! This is always fun whether you are together or by yourself bubbles always make me feel luxurious. 

Wow it is hard to find a picture of the sex in the shower kit but they are suction handles and foot steps that they sell at the shop and help out SO much!!!!!!!!!

I hope these help you out so much!!!!!!!!!!!!

body tickler

http://xsandoslingerie.com/ostrichtickler.aspx

This is a fun addition to a bed room. get a skinny vase and a couple of these and decorate it and no one will ever know that they are more than a decoration. These ones a so gentle and light and feel incredible just lightly touched against the skin.

Lover's Paintbox

 

http://xsandoslingerie.com/loverspaintbox.aspx

My husband and I got this as one of our wedding presents from a groomsmen. It tasted SO yummy and i am very picky about chocolates. The jars have a generous amount in them and the paintbrush was really easy to use!  You will have a blast drawing and writing fun things on each other's bodies!

Set contains: 2 oz each of Kama Sutra dark, milk and white chocolate body paints and a body paintbrush to create your masterpiece. 

52 Weeks of Romance

http://xsandoslingerie.com/52weeksofromance.aspx

Do you sometimes find yourself in a funk when trying to figure out what to do for your date nights? Well this is a perfect way to get out of that funk.Romantic thrills, unexpected surprises, passionate expressions of love, and playful games of seduction are all temptations that you can expect to find inside! Simply pull a card from the silk pouch and see what romantic surprise awaits you and your spouse. The year's supply of "scratch and win" cards include romantic IOU's, suggestions, coupons, interludes, and more.

Ki-Wi

http://xsandoslingerie.com/kiwi.aspx

 I have not tried her yet but doing home parties i have turned this baby on and know I would LOVE her. This is super cute the tip glows hot pink and it is just a unique and interesting toy. If you are into trying new products this is definitely for you! It is an easy hold design and has a soft/rubbery feel at the tip and has a LOT of power!
Here are the details
\Whisper quiet with three different levels of vibration PLUS seven different pulse patterns. She even has a HOT PINK tip that glows and blinks along with each pattern. With her clean sleek and modern design, this surprising little toy will become a quick favorite for those who love to have their special spots tickled!

*Waterproof
*Phthalate-free silicone and ABS plastic
*Requires 2 AAA batteries (not included)
*Toy measures 5"l x 2"d
*Box measures 6.5" x 3.5" x 2"

X's and O's Home Party

http://xsandoslingerie.com/xsandoslingerieparties.aspx

Are you in the San Diego/LA area? Whether you know someone getting married or having an anniversary or do you just want to have an educational perspective of intimacy products that are designed to enhance your sexuality then this is for you. I had one of these for my bridal shower and the owners of this company are AMAZING! They are so knowledgeable of the product and the human anatomy and if they do not have the answer to your problem they will do their homework and get you an answer! This is such a relaxed and open environment and no question is too far fetched. 

Click the link above to learn more about these parties! 

We Vibe II

THE BEST TOY! in my opinion this is the best! It is made to be used DURING sex. This brings the right pressure and vibration to all of the right spots for BOTH of you! I have the We Vibe I and it in itself is amazing and only has 2 speeds. This one has 3 speeds and multiple pulses. I can only imagine how much better this one is! This one comes with a satin bag, mine came with a sun glass case which i think is such a good idea because no one would know what was in there or think anything of it if it was sitting on your dresser or in a drawer.



http://xsandoslingerie.com/we-vibeII.aspx

here is the description!

Introducing The World's First Couples Vibrator!

Unique in design, this revolutionary product is the first ever vibrator that can be used while making love. The innovative design allows for both external clitoral and internal g-spot stimulation for women.

The We-Vibe II is hands free, strap free and wireless. Created from 100% medical grade silicone, it’s soft, comfortable and easy to use. Treat yourself and your spouse to A New Dimension In Pleasure™.

The We-Vibe's anatomical shape will fit women's internal contours and will naturally and comfortably nestle in and massage the G-Spot. The flexible We-Vibe II will conform inside you to accommodate the shape of the vagina while making love in different positions.

What's New with the We-Vibe II?
With 9 exciting new modes designed to provide maximum climatic stimulation (Low Speed - High Speed - Throb - Wave - Pulse - Ramp - Tease - Ascending - Cha-Cha) and sensually designed to please you and your partner, it’s easy to understand why women and couples around the world are saying "Yes, We-Vibe!".

We-Vibe II makes it even easier "to get turned on" with a new intuitive push button easy to find on the We-Vibe II's nose. With just one push you're turned on to Low Speed, push again and you move from one sensual style to the next.

Treat yourself to Harmonic Throbbing™ and enjoy Throb or Ascending, Wave or Pulse, Tease or Cha-Cha; if you're even more daring, try all 9 modes for an intimate night you and your partner will never forget!

Finished with your We-Vibe II? Simply hold down the push button for two seconds to turn it off. Did you forget and fall asleep? Don't worry, your We-Vibe now has an automatic shut-off, indicating its time to charge.

At the push of a button, get turned on again with your favorite vibe within an hour of use. The We-Vibe II remembers your last vibration mode, and resumes play!