Foreplay

this is where a lot of communication needs to come in! If you do not talk about it you may never be pleased and it is not your partners fault that they can't read your mind. But you also should be asking what they want! In order to not hurt your husbands ego you should state what you want like this. "I LOVE it when you...." That empowers them knowing they did something that made you happy and it makes them want to do that for you! But foreplay is KEY for girls! It is much easier for a woman to have an orgasm during sex, after she had a clitoral orgasm during foreplay. Women are like a crock pot and men are like a microwave, it takes a while to get most of us to the finish line.

What do you wish guys would do?

So one of the nights of the cruise, i posted prior to this one, We are separating the men and women, There will be several things for the ladies like chair dance class and a few other things we have not figured out yet, but for the guys we will be having some sort of group meet and we are trying to decided what it should be focusing on. Here are some examples we came up with, but what would you want your man to work on that would make you more willing to make love to him?
I have to say  we ALL want our men to pitch in more at home and give us the time to feel like sexy women...but would you like him to learn
1) relaxing massage, that would connect the two of you BEFORE hanky panky starts
2) Dress up, just like he wants us in Lingerie and set up a romantic seduction scene or
3) learn to talk to me in a romantic way that makes me want to be more sexual

(that doesn't imply he needs to wear lingerie.....just "PUT SOME EFFORT INTO IT!")

just ideas
if you have an other please write it in we are looking for anything you are wanting or women want in general

Music sets the mood.

Make a mood CD. It has been proven that music impacts our mood a LOT. For women, we a lot of times set ourselves up for failure in bed and if we start doing things purposefully to put ourselves in the mood then you will have it on your mind and that is half the battle. I dont know why but i LOVE nine inch nails, the lead singers voice automatically puts me in the mood so i listen to my itunes to that the days that i want to be in the mood for my hubby! What is your mood music?

condoms

Condoms are very affective against both pregnancy and STD's but only when used properly. The main cause of condom failure is not breakage but improper use of them. There are different shapes and sizes for a reason and purchasing different types to try them on and see the best fit may be embarrassing and cost a a little money but it will be more embarrassing and expensive if you get a girl pregnant or catch a disease. If you use a condom that is too big it can slip off, too small and it can break. Learn how to properly put on a condom because if put on wrong it can cause the same problems. Be careful and be safe. of course this is for those who are not wanting to get pregnant and/or are wanting to protect themselves or their partner from an STD.

He doesnt want it!

I know the stereotype is that women do not want to have sex and men are frustrated, but i have found with many of my friends it is the men who cant keep up which can be frustrating for the women. Sometimes this makes the men want sex even less because they feel like something is wrong with them and they dont measure up to their sexual partner so they do not want to try. The biggest thing is communication! Talk through all of your issues and let him know that you are attracted to him and you think he is sexy! the words "sexy" and "hot" make men jump out of their skin. Also let him know how great he is in bed and that you just want more of him! If it feels like that is not getting to him then there is a bigger issue, either erectile dysfunction, which he could be ashamed of and doesn't want to go to the doctor, or something even deeper. Talking is the biggest way for men or women to get their lover to want them in bed!