What do you wish guys would do?

So one of the nights of the cruise, i posted prior to this one, We are separating the men and women, There will be several things for the ladies like chair dance class and a few other things we have not figured out yet, but for the guys we will be having some sort of group meet and we are trying to decided what it should be focusing on. Here are some examples we came up with, but what would you want your man to work on that would make you more willing to make love to him?
I have to say  we ALL want our men to pitch in more at home and give us the time to feel like sexy women...but would you like him to learn
1) relaxing massage, that would connect the two of you BEFORE hanky panky starts
2) Dress up, just like he wants us in Lingerie and set up a romantic seduction scene or
3) learn to talk to me in a romantic way that makes me want to be more sexual

(that doesn't imply he needs to wear lingerie.....just "PUT SOME EFFORT INTO IT!")

just ideas
if you have an other please write it in we are looking for anything you are wanting or women want in general

Xs and Os is taking a cruise

The X's & O's Lingerie Cruise (soon to be cleverly named) is well underway in the planning stages!! Met w/ Debi King to go over possibilities & brainstorm! Workshop/s offered for the couples, guest speaker/s, SPECIAL GOODIES delivered to enjoy at "bed-time", "Homework assignments" for building/rekindling the flame in the bedroom, etc! Who can say NO to Time Away from the MADNESS of LIFE?

The date will be picked soon it is between Dec 6 (a four day cruise) or Feb 20th (5 day cruise) 

If you are interested or want to hear more i will be posting updates on it while i get them! 

The cruise will include a chair dance lesson by yours truly as well to practice that night with your lover! :)

Guys let the girls finish all of the chores first

A lot of times girls have to much going on in their heads that they can not get into sex! i promise it will be a hundred percent better for you if you let her do the things that she says she needs to get done first. You want her to have a clear mind to focus on only you, make sure the doors are locked stove is off, curling iron is unplugged, the dishes are done, the toys are put away and there is nothing she needs to worry about.

sexy photoshoot

surprise your lover with a sexy photo album! now with printers in almost every household we no longer have to be embarrassed taking intimate photos in or have them possibly confiscated. Use lingerie you already have or use it as an excuse to buy a new set. You can find a photographer who does these but they are usually a little pricey but you can do them yourself and save some money but it is nice to go into a studio and have someone tell you what looks good and has experience with shoots like this but make sure it is someone you are comfortable with or else it will show in the pictures.
Take one of your mans button up shirts so you can do a morning after shot.
Take some costumes along.
Have fun with it and dont be embarrassed he will love them and he will be the one looking at them!

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Music sets the mood.

Make a mood CD. It has been proven that music impacts our mood a LOT. For women, we a lot of times set ourselves up for failure in bed and if we start doing things purposefully to put ourselves in the mood then you will have it on your mind and that is half the battle. I dont know why but i LOVE nine inch nails, the lead singers voice automatically puts me in the mood so i listen to my itunes to that the days that i want to be in the mood for my hubby! What is your mood music?

Back Door

It is a subject that not many people discuss. Only 25% of people who have been asked out of over 3400 admitted to performing in ANY form of anal play, this included heterosexual and homosexual relations. only 6% to 8% of couples living together admitted to having anal sex at least once a month.  Believe it or not but some forms of anal stimulation can be beneficial for your health! Males using special adult toys that massage the prostate can promote prostate help and significantly lower your risk for prostate cancer. There are several versions of toys that help with this, the one the most people i have talked to have been pleased with is call the Aneros. The couples don't only say it is beneficial to their health but gives men a different kind of orgasm that they couldnt even explain. So if you are willing to explore this option men, from what many men have said after using this, you will be pleasantly surprised.  talk to you doctor and see if this is right for you. If you have any questions about this subject ask away!

Xs and Os Lingerie and Gift Boutique

I added a picture link to their online store at the bottom of my blog. If there is any product not on the site that you have seen they can order ANYTHING for you. Also there a hundreds more products in the store location than on the website. I believe in this store so much! They really focus on the couple and their needs and CARE about you! They are not just there to make a sale, they educate you on the products because they do not want you to be disappointed. It is so clean and light inside and it was the first adult shop that I did not feel dirty walking into.